When Phoebe born, we did everything for her, from feeding, bathing to changing diapers. We enjoyed every process and took lots of pictures. It was a new experience and we celebrate every milestones she crossed. She's our princess and gem.
When Reuben came, we engaged a domestic helper to assist us. Slowly, she took over the duties of changing the diapers and bathing the children. It's not that Reuben is being valued less. We love him just as much and he's our little prince and jewel. But we just want to free ourselves from the daily duties. I constantly ask myself, "Maybe the novelty has worn out? Or have we became lazy parents?" I hope not. I would like to think that we, as parents, have more time and energy now to play and learn with them. So, have we spent more time playing with them? Time to do some soul-searching...
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Both bs and I felt the same way as you and your hubby... We used to bring Jordan home every Tues, Thurs, Fri, Sat and Sun though he was looked after by his grandma. But now I felt so bad that Baby Jus only comes home during the weekends... And it breaks my heart when he cries non-stop at night (his grandma says he missed her place!!!)
We're no better, only carry Reuben for a while and then pass him to maid. Very lazy parents! :p And I think Reuben likes the maid... Whenever he cries very badly and my hubby and I seems unable to pacify him, the minute we pass Reuben to the maid and the maid asked him, "Reuben, what happen..."Then Reuben, upon hearing her voice, will stop crying... I told my hubby, we're a bit "si bai":( I tell myself to carry him more and talk to him more often, but sometimes I'm afraid to coo him in Phoebe's presence coz she'll become attention-seeking and will want me to cajole her too. Tough man!
Think we really have to do something to change things before it gets worse! Can u imagine this -someone i knew just left her kids to mil and maid and on mother's day, kids gave mum's day cards to the other two and not to her!!!
I guess in Sin, kids are taken care by in-laws or domestic helper, and parents are always busy working. I believe as parents, we want to spend as much time as possible with our kids, but sometimes it's not possible for all parents to do so. Being a SAHM, I should say that I have full control of how I want to raise and teach my kid, and build a strong bond with him. I always believe that it's easy to give a life, but not easy to raise one. I pray that as God entrusts the little ones into our lives, we as parents will give them our full attention whenever they need us. Sisters, it's time to take back your authority as parents, and let your little ones know who is in control.
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